"Not This Time"

by Joanne Riven
mother of
Alex Samuel[1/24/91]
Sarah Nicole[2/20/96-3/2/96]

"Put it behind you" is your advice.
Please don't say it my friend, - not this time.
I dropped and broke my favourite pitcher - I was upset, so I cried. I
went to every store looking for another. Not finding one, I asked the
manager to order me another one. She said she couldn't guarantee it
would be exactly the same.
I put it behind me.
I lost my favourite pen, and was totally undone. Writing every day,
the way I do, pens become like friends and you do have your favourite
ones. But I bought another one.
And, I put it behind me.
I lost an earring and ruined the pair - lost a diamond from my wedding
ring - wrecked the car beyond repair... All were losses, all produced
degrees of grief reaction. All of these things - I could put them
behind me.
But not this time my friend. Not this time my friend - don't ask me.
Don't tell me or even suggest that I put it behind me - my child's
death.
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